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David Heckenlively

 

Member profile details

First name
David
Last name
Heckenlively
Gender
Male
Ethnicity
  • White
Member Picture
Office Phone
9257884541
Mailing County
Contra Costa
 

License & Degree Information

License Type
  • Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist
License #
38744
Year Licensed
2005
Degree 1
  • M.S.
Degree 1 Institution
San Francisco State University
Degree 1 Year
1999
 

Directory Information

Office Location(s) - City
  • Walnut Creek
Other Office Location(s) - City
Walnut Creek
Office Address
1009 Norwich Pl
Office City
Walnut Creek
Office State
California
Office Zip
94598
Office Address 2
1009 Norwich Pl
Office City 2
Walnut Creek
Office Other City 2
Walnut Creek
Office State 2
California
Office Zip 2
94598
Short Description (199 characters max)
Hello all! I’m a therapist in the East Bay specializing in teens and young adults, especially those with social anxiety and depression. I run groups for young people.
Description (2950 characters max)
I run a therapy practice grounded in helping people navigate life situations that don’t have clean answers—caregiving, family conflict, identity development, and major transitions. I work with adults, teens, and young adult men, and I also work directly with parents who are trying to support their children through these same challenges. Many of the individuals and families I work with are thoughtful and capable, yet feel overwhelmed, stuck, or unsure of how to move forward. Whether someone is stepping into adulthood, navigating family expectations, or trying to guide their child through a difficult season, my role is to help bring clarity, steadiness, and direction.

My approach is direct, practical, and relational. I believe insight matters, but only when it leads to meaningful change. With teens and young men, I focus on building trust quickly and creating a space where they can be real without feeling judged or managed. With parents, I offer a space to step back, make sense of what’s happening, and respond more effectively rather than reactively. Across the board, sessions often center on untangling complex dynamics—family relationships, communication breakdowns, pressure around performance or identity—and helping people take ownership of their role in moving things forward.

A core part of my work is helping families function more effectively as a system. I work with parents to better understand their child’s experience while also coaching them on how to set appropriate boundaries, reduce reactivity, and shift patterns that may be unintentionally reinforcing conflict or avoidance. When parents are engaged in this process, it often creates meaningful and lasting change—not just for the young person, but across the family.

A consistent theme in my practice is helping people develop a stronger sense of agency. For adults and parents, this often means setting boundaries and stepping out of patterns of over-responsibility or emotional entanglement. For teens and young men, it often means learning how to take responsibility in the first place—making decisions, tolerating discomfort, and building confidence through action rather than avoidance. I pay close attention to how responsibility, guilt, and expectations show up across generations, especially in families where roles have become rigid or imbalanced.

I also hold space for meaning-making. Many of the people I work with are quietly asking bigger questions about purpose, values, and who they want to become. When appropriate, I integrate these conversations in a way that feels grounded and personal rather than abstract or prescriptive.

Ultimately, the practice is about helping individuals and families move from reactivity to intention—so they can face challenges directly, make clear decisions, and live in a way that reflects who they are becoming, not just what’s expected of them.
 

Fees

Sliding Scale
Yes
Fee (range)
$175-$350
Credit Cards Accepted
Yes
 

Areas of Emphasis

Emphasis
  • Addictions
  • Adolescents
  • Attachment issues
  • Bipolar disorder
  • Caregivers
  • Children
  • Depression/Suicide
  • Families
  • Life coaching
  • Mens issues
  • Self esteem
  • Spiritual issues
  • Stress management
  • Young adults
 

Theoretical Orientation

Orientation
  • Attachment Theory
  • Cognitive-Behavioral
  • Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT)
  • Humanistic / Existential
  • Integration Theory
  • Narrative
  • Play Therapy
  • Relational
  • Transpersonal
 

Insurance Accepted

Insurance
  • Aetna
  • Blue Cross
  • Blue Shield
  • Cigna
  • Oxford/Americo
  • United Health Care (UHC)
Other - Insurance
Quest Behavioral Health
 

Therapy Groups Offered

Groups
  • Adolescents
  • Children
  • Meditation
  • Men
  • Parenting
  • Substance Abuse/Recovery
  • New Item
Other Group
Young Men
Group Description (199 characters max)
I love to run groups for teens and young men. I focus on social skill and confidence building


East Bay Chapter, CA Association of Marriage and Family Therapists
P.O Box 6278 Albany, CA 94706
 510-692-9936
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